Newfound Independence: A true-to-life telling of Being Your Own Provider as A Single Woman

No contingencies of any kind - no family or friends to lean on, no government assistance and no man. Aaahhhh Moving into my first apartment was a transformative, learning experience that marked the beginning of my journey towards independence. Although it was just a studio and merely a sublet, it felt like a ginormous and satisfying step in my life. I had a full-time job at a pub and worked part-time at Sizzler's, hustling to make ends meet. It was exhilarating and exhausting, but more than anything, it taught me the value of self-discipline and the true meaning of resilience!

When I first stepped across the threshold of my new space, it was bare and simple; all I owned were my clothes and a tv. The emptiness didn’t bother me, though, it was a blank canvas for me. I knew I had made sacrifices to make this happen and going without sleep was certainly one of them! Nights out, taxi rides, manicures, salon appointments—these were luxuries of the past. In those early days, I learned to budget meticulously, focusing on what truly mattered... After getting a sofa bed and microwave lol (reserve judgement for yourself, bitch)

My diet shifted dramatically, too. I cut out takeout, or going to restaurants. But, above all else here, I urge you to get a bottle of 1-a-day vitamins because they definitely help maintain your health! Water became my constant companion, quenching me and filling my stomach keeping the pangs at bay. I lived off salads, and soups (and sometimes chicken as it is the cheapest protein to buy) and, yea, I pretty much just ate simply out of necessity. Frosted Mini-Wheats or Rice Chex became my breakfast staples, providing a quick and easy start to my busy days. Food choices were not just about nourishment; they represented a commitment to my newfound independence. My kitchen always had: eggs, potatoes, cold cuts, tuna fish and cereal. And that's how it was. For three months. I saved all the cash I could and by the end of the first month, I had rent covered WITH HALF OF THE NEXT MONTH already accumulating!

Originally, I concocted that plan to "make do" but I soon learned it was in my best interest to keep it going to accrue savings. And that's how it was for almost a year. Looking back, I realize that these adjustments were essential to my growth. They reinforced my determination and self-reliance because there were times I had self-doubt, but my discipline emerged as the force behind my achievements. It wasn’t always easy—there were moments when I questioned whether I could keep up the pace. But each challenge I faced only strengthened my resolve. I learned that sacrificing short-term comforts leads to some serious long-term fulfillment . . . it only just requires me sleeping like a cat but, hey!

In hindsight, the experience of moving into my first apartment, despite the obstacles, was empowering. It's in this stage of my life that I developed a respect for the hard, working class; along with developing a hatred for the spoiled, silver-spoon-fed types. Each day was a lesson in responsibility and growth, reminding me that I had only myself to rely on. It wasn’t just the apartment I gained; it was a deeper understanding of who I am and what I’m capable of achieving and maintaining - despite lack of support.

This journey continues to shape my perspective today. It’s a reminder that even in the face of challenges, we hold the power to create our own path. Embracing independence is not merely about living alone; it's about thriving in any situation, and it includes being nice to your neighbors and superintendent - these are the people that help you along your way so it's best to not piss them off; this is your homestead and you're going to have to treat it as such. Whenever I reflect on my first apartment, smack in the middle of Brooklyn, NY, I cherish the memories, lessons, and strength I gained along the way. Now, in hindsight, would I have done things differently? Would I have been an escort or a stripper or maybe have a sugar daddy?? ABSOFUCKINGLUTELY! Life is too short to spend your fresh youth struggling to get by and although I didn't literally go hungry, I damn sure went without. Fuck that. Do you ladies! xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo!